Monday, August 27, 2018

The Longevity of Stupid Questions

Don’t ask stupid questions!

I heard that recently in church. A wife said that to her husband. I saw the effect that type of verbal abuse had on both of them – DEVASTATING.
The wife looked angry. The husband looked beaten down. I couldn’t help but think what they looked like “pre-marriage.”

In a way, they looked like my parents. In our home my mom was an “alpha-male” – calling ALL the shots, making ALL the decisions. My dad was emasculated every day. I never saw him argue or challenge her. I can’t imagine living in that oppressive environment for 18 years. Yet, they both did! Both of them were unfulfilled. Not a good example of LOVE or respect.

In counseling, I explored the idea of dating and sharing my life with someone. As a product of my parent’s divorce, I’m apprehensive in getting to know someone in a way that goes beyond sex. The sex part is something I know. I also know myself and the baggage I bring. That baggage carries a DEEP wound. I know that’s the case with the woman I am with. I don’t know whether our baggage can withstand a healthy relationship. I guess I won’t know that until I jump in and find out.

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Focus: Dating, Intimacy, Spirit

Questions for you: 1) What baggage (drugs, alcohol, bi-polar) are deal breakers for you? 2) What baggage prevents your self-disclosure/intimacy with others?

Monday, August 20, 2018

Exercise Your Heart: 6 Benefits

Physical activity is as beneficial to your heart as medication. Here are 6 benefits:

1.   Exercise lowers blood pressure. It works like beta-blocker medication to slow the heart rate and lower blood pressure. High blood pressure is a major risk factor for heart disease.
2.   Exercise is key to weight control. Being physically active is an essential component for losing weight and keeping it off. Being overweight puts stress on the heart and is a risk factor for heart disease and stroke.
3.   Exercise helps strengthen muscles. A combination of aerobic workouts (i.e. walking, running, swimming) and strength training is considered best for heart health. This reduces the need for the heart to work harder to pump more blood to the muscles.
4.   Exercise helps you quit smoking. As smokers become fit, they often quit. People who are fit are less likely to ever start smoking.
5.   Exercise helps stop, or slow the development of diabetes. When combines with strength training, regular aerobic exercise such as biking or swimming can reduce the risk of diabetes by allowing the muscles to process glycogen, a fuel for energy.
6.   Exercise reduces stress. Stress hormones can put an extra burden on the heart. Exercise can help you relax and ease stress.

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Monday, August 13, 2018

Exercise: Fit It In

How can you fit more exercise into your day? Begin with small steps. Here are some ideas:
  • ·        Park your car at the end of a parking lot so you have further to walk.
  • ·        Use the stairs instead of the elevator.
  • ·        Spend part of your lunch break walking.
  • ·        On bad weather days, walk indoors at the mall.
  • ·        Wake up earlier and exercise before you do anything else.
  • ·        Use a wearable fitness tracker to count your steps. Increase your daily steps by 500  each week with a goal of 10,000 steps per day.

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Monday, August 6, 2018

Exercise and Anxiety/Depression

1.   Start small >> Set achievable goals and build from there.
2.   Workout when you have HIGH energy >> Gauge your energy. When you are at your most focused (i.e. morning, afternoon, night).
3.   Activities that are FUN >> gardening, walking the dog.
4.   Be comfortable >> wear comfortable clothes.
5.   Reward your efforts >> treat yourself to something you enjoy.
6.   Exercise with a friend >> keep your goals consistent. Ask a friend to accompany you as you exercise.

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