Monday, April 30, 2018

ViewPoint: RISK

Stephen Covey has a central theme to his books: win-win and work from the inside-out. The
two ideas go hand-in-hand. It’s an easy concept but very hard to put into practice. The hardest part is making the commitment to dig deep and understand your stuff.

When you communicate, you have to understand what drives you – why do you act in the way that you do. In many cases, fear is present and creates an obstacle. When you are involved in any type of communication situation, you have to take a risk. Without risk, there is no movement. That risk may be asking your boss for a raise or confronting an employee or a colleague, or just being vulnerable. The bottom line is you will never know the outcome, until you try it.

When you understand the inside, the outside comes naturally. And when the inside matches the outside, you are in a win-win situation … everytime!

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Monday, April 23, 2018

Forgiveness (Maria Shriver)

What is forgiveness? It’s letting go of resentment, giving up feeling harmed or damaged. That doesn’t mean the harm or damage didn’t happen. It means that you’re not going to keep revisiting it over and over again, staying stuck in your resentment of the person who caused the harm. Even, if it’s you.

I’ve prayed for help with forgiveness. I’ve tried to talk myself into it. And often, I’ve pushed myself to the forgiveness finish line before I was really ready to take the action of actually forgiving, only to find myself right back where I started: resentful and feeling bad.
So to truly get to the place I wanted to be – which was to be a steady, solid, peaceful, forgiving person – I started with myself.

When I found myself berating myself for choices I made, opportunities I missed, people I misjudged, behaviors I condoned, the whole thing – I stopped. “No more.” I started being kind to myself. Over and over again.

Once I started easing up on myself in this way. I found myself being able to ease up on others. I realized that what I needed, so did they. If I made mistakes and deserved to be forgiven, so, too, did they. If I had hurt another and could be forgiven and move on, so too, could they. If I had been critical and judgmental of someone and could be forgiven, so, too could they.

In other words, If  I could let go of my resentments and judgments of myself, I could and should let go of my resentments and judgments of others and just plain move on, instead of staying stuck. I had to give what I was seeking for myself.

Forgiveness is letting go of the need to feel like a victim. Work on it. You’ll lighten your load – the load of negativity you carry around.

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Monday, April 16, 2018

A Good Idea: Theme Songs and Confidence

Want to be EMPOWERED? Get yourself a theme song and play it when you need a
boost! Back in the 70’s, Helen Reddy wrote the song I Am Woman (Hear Me Roar). It became an anthem for women, and won a Grammy Award! We all need encouragement and a song can do it! What lyrics inspire you? The next time you are stuck and need to move out of a rut, play your theme song and see what happens!

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Sunday, April 8, 2018

How Zumba Saved Me!

I’ve  ALWAYS believed that testimonies are tools for personal growth and transformation. They “speak” to what’s possible and how to triumph over adversity. Here’s mine about how I did it!

Three years ago, I was in a bad space. My house went into foreclosure. I was evicted and I lost a teaching job that I loved. Prior to this experience, I attended zumba 3-4 times a week. Being in class brought me so many positives. That all went away when I just “gave up.”

The depression was overwhelming. I couldn’t concentrate. It was hard for me to get out of bed and walk to the bathroom. I dropped from 180 to 155 pounds. I averaged 2-3 hours of sleep per night. (That was with sleep medication.) My friends dropped out of sight. Many of them  couldn’t be bothered. I felt like my life was over. I thought about suicide. That seemed like a viable solution since nothing I did worked.

One day, I turned on the television. Joyce Meyer, the Christian evangelist said, I need to stop what I’m saying and preach to my television viewers. If you’re thinking about suicide, STOP! That is the enemy. God has a better plan for you.  That moment  wasn’t an accident. It was God telling me to move.

At this point, I was away from my Zumba routine. A friend of mine suggested I return. It helped her overcome fertility issues. In her words, Bob, you’ve got to come back and enjoy the music and fun. I told her I’d think about it since coming back to my local gym was 40 miles, round trip. I said to God, Your plan is better than mine. You know my circumstances and my limitations. I started one day a week. It took me about six weeks to get back into the groove and enjoy dance.

This is my tenth year doing zumba. When I was in the midst of foreclosure, eviction and job loss. I lost myself and  ALL its benefits (i.e. endorphin rush, lower blood pressure, positive camaraderie with others). Now, I’m better. Life is picking up. My weight is back, my blood pressure is lower and I no longer have suicidal thoughts.

For me, zumba is not just a class. It IS a lifestyle that incorporates wellness and restoration of spirit.

Focus: Exercise, Spirit, Joy

Question for You: 1) What exercises can you do to replenish your spirit? 2) What physical challenges are you experiencing that warrant an exercise plan? 3) What is stopping you from an exercise regime?

Monday, April 2, 2018

Family Roles: Problem Child or Addict (End)

The Problem Child or Addict

This family member has an unconscious need to be the center of attention. They may have
felt that they didn’t get the kind of attention they desired when they were young. On the outside, they can be entertaining and intuitive. On the inside, they are addictive and manipulative. In order to BREAK FREE from this role, you will need:
1)   Awareness of situations that “trigger” the need for attention.
2)   A game plan that helps break addictive behaviors
3)   Support in the area of counseling

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