Tuesday, December 27, 2016

Knowing God's Will



I speak for myself when I say that knowing God’s will is tricky. For me, I’ve done better with a “set schedule.” When you give your day over to God; it can become a roller coaster ride. Why? Because God knows what is BEST for us. Sometimes, we have to be shaken to be fully ALIVE. But, the bottom line is that when we work in God-time; we come into a life that has a deeper sense of accomplishment and purpose.
How do you know when you’re doing God’s will?
1.    Commit yourself to him everyday. Throughout the day acknowledge him by saying God, I put my life in your hands. Do with me what you will!
2.    Trust God to send you the work and relationships that you need for his purpose.
God’s will isn’t a mystery that you try to unlock. The Bible contains many scriptures about knowing his will. The key is to read and listen to that still small voice (i.e. The Holy Spirit) to guide you!
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Words: God, spirit, accomplishment, relationships, Bible

Monday, December 19, 2016

Running With God

Has God put a desire in your heart to do something new and different? Maybe a new job, or a new relationship? If He has, you have to have faith/confidence that he will BRING IT to fruition?
We ALL have challenges in life. Some people will cave by giving up because it’s too hard or they get distracted. There are people who will achieve their goal(s). It’s because they’re persistent. Inevitably, they’re trusting God to get them through it.
A runner gets a second wind when he forces himself to go beyond his natural abilities. He taps into his reservoir of unused energy. I BELIEVE it’s faith. We feel the joy of God’s spirit lift and carry us when we walk in faith vs. sight.
Take a moment to set your heart in faith. The faith that GOD will lead you, pick you up (when you’ve fallen) and gives you the energy to continue running with HIM.

Words: God, spirit, nourishment.

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Day By Day

There is a very important line in the “Our Father.” It goes like this, “Give us our day, our daily bread.” Basically, we’re asking for grace or a “get out of jail free” card when we’re in a bind. As God provided “manna” when the Israelites were in the desert; He’ll do the same for you on a daily basis. Trust God to give you things like:
·         Material goods >> money, food and supplies that you need for today.
·         The creativity you need to finish/start a project.
·         The stamina or energy you need to get through your day.
·         The spiritual nourishment to get through your daily challenges
Never forget; ask God for your daily bread.

Words: God, spirit,  nourishment.

Thursday, December 8, 2016

Someone To Talk To

Someone To Talk To
I’m ALWAYS amazed when God places someone in my path to get my attention. This happened recently. Karen (not her real name) worked at a bank I did business at. She worked there for 30 years. Her retirement approached. The bank gave her a hassle. They wanted her to work at another branch, that didn’t have a lot of activity. She loved where she worked.  Her colleagues became her 2nd family. In an effort to maintain her pension and benefits, she moved to this branch to “ride out” her last days. Her children were grown. Right before she retired, her husband was diagnosed with leukemia. He went through the treatment but subsequently passed. At this point, she was officially retired. Transitions hit her ALL at once: 1) Retirement, 2) Loss of spouse, 3) Empty nest and 4) Redefining her life.
As she spoke, her emotions were still raw. Though she was  retired for a number of years; and  her husband passed; she was lost.
I listened intently as she revealed her daily activities. When I asked her what was the worst part in ALL of this; her response was immediate. “I just wanted someone to talk to.” Her lack of family was a HUGE loss; so was her lack of friends. Those 2 areas kept her busy and ALIVE. When they were gone, she didn’t know how to deal with her life. She said that it was hard to make and keep friends. All of her older friends had lives already.
Her truth shocked me. I was in the same boat. I had to redefine my life. While, I too tried to establish long lasting and healthy relationships; it wasn’t meant to be. People were “busy.” I hate that word because people make excuses for their time. I wonder how “busy” they would be, if they were in a situation where everything they once had (i.e.  family, spouse, job etc.) was taken away. I would hope they’d  learn that claiming their “busyness,” is a falsehood.
“I just wanted someone to talk to!”
Think about how easy it is to just listen to someone. It doesn’t take money. It just takes your time. The only thing Karen needed was someone to talk to. That was enough for her. Her need was an easy one. Recently, I had a conversation with  a priest. He has dedicated himself to serving others. He said that one of the easiest things a person can do is write a check for a “cause.” It’s a lot harder to give someone your time!

Question for you: In the scheme of your life, who needs your attention? (Your kids, spouse, parents). Are you putting off  giving them your time cause you are too “busy?”





Saturday, December 3, 2016

Worrying About Money



Worrying about money doesn’t pay the bills. Worrying about money repels prosperity and abundance.
Here are some alternatives to worrying about it:


  • Calculate whether you have enough money for your needs right now. If you do, don’t focus on lack.

  • Catch yourself the next time you start dwelling on what you don’t have.

Worry is a future tense emotion. It’s a projection of a possible (not probable) scenario. Why not ask yourself how you can create money vs. How can I get it? There is an enormous difference in the energy you send to the Universe when you say you’ll create it.

Constant worry about money blocks your creativity and clear thinking.

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Words: Worry, abundance, creativity

Sunday, November 27, 2016

Our Boundaries

Boundaries are important for ALL of us. We all have limits which need to be respected. In order to have boundaries that support you, you HAVE to confront people and use the word NO.

It is your responsibility to say no, especially to old habits that drain your energy, rob your joy, or what distracts you from purpose.

Saying no and establishing boundaries can be liberating when it expresses our commitment to take a stand for what you believe you need!

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Words: Boundaries, respect, commitment, spirit

Monday, November 21, 2016

Burnout And You


Burnout is caused by imbalance  -- too much work and too little time to do it. You’re running on fumes vs. fuel.

Burnout starts with illness and is accompanied with depression.
You’re burned out when you go to bed exhausted and wake up tired. It’s burnout when everything becomes too much effort. It’s burnout when you don’t want to have sex, or you’re enraged at the smallest thing. It’s burnout when you’re trapped and hopeless. It’s burnout when you believe that no one can help you.

But, you’re wrong!

The only person who can help you with burnout is you. It’s because you have to make the lifestyle changes to take a slower, more enriched path.

When you have no strength left, you HAVE to rely on the strength of a HIGHER POWER to restore you to wholeness.

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Words: Burnout, peace, serenity, illness

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Your Internal Enemies

When you’re constantly disappointed, you continue to feel sorry for yourself. Your ego ( i.e.
denial, repression) has a lot to lose when you begin your authentic journey. Why? You’ve known no other way. You’ve relied on the strength of your ego until now. Now, you’re changing. You’ve made the decision to do something positive. That decision means checking in with spirit to seek a peaceful path. The peaceful path doesn’t cave into fear, intimidation, pressure or self-sabotage.

Observe your behavior patterns. Are your decisions vested in fear or peace?

If you’re at peace with a decision, you’ve outsmarted the “enemy within” and are on the path to your authenticity.

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Words: Denial, repression, joy, behavior, patterns, authentic

Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Moving Forward

There’s perspective in looking back at a situation . . . a failed marriage, job loss, eviction. 

Sometimes, we need a smack in the face to understand why things happened in the way they did. If we learn what we need to learn to move forward, that’s great. Don’t get stuck in the situation, mulling it over and over again. The situation is in the past. Let it go and learn from it.

MOVE FORWARD.

Moving forward is part of a DIVINE PLAN. Trust spirit to move you forward from something that is dead and buried.

DO IT NOW!

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Words: Perspective, divine, plan, learn, trust

Friday, November 4, 2016

Complacency

Judy and Sue (not their real names) are my Zumba teachers. Both of them have taught for over 3 years. Each brings their own style. As an educator, I always have my teacher hat on.  I’m ALWAYS observing how other teachers do it. It doesn’t matter the venue (i.e. classroom vs. health club). If you have a class, you’re a teacher. Lately, many of the students have been concerned about Judy’s complacency. She’s used the same music for over a year. Her routines are the same. While many have asked her to change a couple of the songs (and dance routines), she remains steadfast and rigid in keeping things “as is.”

On the other hand, Sue keeps things current. She changes her songs (and routines) every couple of weeks. Her style is different from Judy’s. She is animated and invites her class to come up and dance with her. She pokes fun at herself when she messes up. She asks for song suggestions. She moves through the class and (genuinely) motivates them. She isn’t complacent.

Both ladies have a solid following. What do I mean? By a solid following, I mean that many people come to class because they enjoy the camaraderie and the energy that comes from it. For over a year, Judy has rested on her laurels. She averages 60+ students during her week day class. Many patrons come to class because it fits into their schedules. Judy knows this and (I believe) trusts that it will continue this way. There is an element of I’m gonna take this for granted. If I have such a BIG following, I don’t have to change.” This kind of intention speaks to LAZINESS. It’s not that Judy can’t choreograph new songs. It’s just that she doesn’t want to. Though, there have been numerous complaints regarding the tone of Judy’s classes, the administration remains complacent because her classes are FULL.

Complacency shows up in many ways. Complacency at work, at home, and in our personal relationships. We don’t recognize how it creeps up on us. It doesn’t just “happen.” It’s because we have an element of laziness within us. What we need to do is be  aware that it’s there. We’re ALL works in progress.

Questions for you: 1) In what situations are you complacent – work, school, home marriage? 2) What excuses do you make to support your complacent nature? (i.e. I’m tired. I’m busy. This is too hard!).


Focus: spirit, life, laziness, friendship, excuses, 

Saturday, October 29, 2016

Bad Habits


Bad habits die hard. We know when we’ve done something (i.e. smoking, over eating) that isn’t good for us. That “still small voice” gets our attention. We can’t ignore what it’s saying. Before changing any behaviors, it’s helpful to know why you want to get rid of it. If you change the habit, what will be your pay back? Are you ready for something better?

When you begin the “path to betterment”, you’ll hear the whispers of encouragement. And, it WILL BE REFRESHING!

Too often, we’re unaware of the ways we rob ourselves of the precious moments that could be spent nurturing our creativity.

As long as you continue to cling to bad habits that aren’t life enhancing, you steal from your potential.

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Words: potential, creativity, habits.

Saturday, October 22, 2016

Our Patterns


There is a great lesson to be learned from the story about the loaves and fishes in the Bible. As the story goes, Jesus was teaching to thousands. It came time to eat. The only food available was 5 loaves and 2 fishes. Jesus multiplied it and fed everyone. A while later, the apostles experienced another need for a miracle. They went to Jesus and asked him for help. He brought up that they had little faith. The apostles were repeatedly taught by a MASTER, yet they weren’t learning the lesson. It’s because their consciousness about lack and abundance, wasn’t fully developed. They hadn’t learned the lesson.

What patterns or lessons are you currently facing? They could be issues with diet, exercise, finances etc. Whatever the issue, you can’t move OUT of it until you learn it. And learning “it” means you know the lesson so well that you won’t move forward when it comes back.

Open your eyes to the patterns that trap you. Address each pattern one at a time. Make a commitment to learn from them so that they don’t repeat themselves.
And, if you’re stuck, get quiet and ask spirit to speak to you in a still small voice.

Watch what happens.

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Words: Confidence, consciousness, miracles

Sunday, October 16, 2016

Worry: Thief Of Time

When you worry, you think  you’re doing something positive. You think if you worry enough, you’ll come up with a better “game plan.”

If you fall into a worry pattern, stop! Think about what’s going right. You might have to write it down or say it out loud. Sometimes, it takes a while to change the “negative channel.” You might even have to ask Spirit for a “circumstance blessing,” or “Amazing Grace.”

One of the reasons we worry is that we feel powerless over our circumstances.

Try to observe how much worrying you do. Identify the issues that cause you frustration and/or grief.

Tackle them one at a time.

Bring back your joy!

You deserve it!

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Words: Grace, perspective, worry, spirit

Monday, October 10, 2016

Tithing

I believe that tithing is a spiritual and God-like principle. The Bible says it’s important to tithe 1/10 of what you earn on a month-to-month basis. It took me a while to understand that when I tithe, I’m trusting God for more. God created the world and there is an abundant source available to us. If he created the world, he’ll create “out of the blue” income when we/you need it.

Spiritual law tells us that as we give, we shall also receive. Money is a form of energy. Energy does not increase if it’s hoarded.

Tithing allows us to express our thanksgiving for what we have.

Money will cease to be an issue when you relax about it. Tithe and see how things change.

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Words: Thanksgiving, tithing, spirit

Monday, October 3, 2016

Confrontations

 Right up with public speaking, people avoid confrontations. While I don’t like to do it, I’ve had to, to preserve my mental health. For me, purging is something I believe in. Maybe, it is the reminder of the thousands of dollars I spent on therapy. I was raised in an oppressive environment where “children should be seen and not heard.” When you live in a family where your voice isn’t heard, it builds up a lot of anger and anxiety. While I’ve had to confront a lot of people, the hardest person to confront was my mom. Since I’m the first born (and only ) boy in the family; and because my dad wasn’t the best husband, my mom used me as her  husband/lover substitute. Now, I’m not talking about incest here, I’m referring to how sometimes a parent inadvertently uses a child for what should be a “parent responsibility.” It was only after my father died; and I entered counseling, did I realize the unhealthy dynamic my mom created in using me in the way she did.

Years ago, I didn’t want to cause any problems with my mom. Although, our relationship was dysfunctional, I saw my mom as “my world.” If she loved me, that was enough. When you look around and start to challenge ingrained family patterns, you learn that those type of beliefs need to change. As I grew stronger in counseling, I took steps to “talk” to her. I use the word talk  for a reason. Initially, we did talk calmly. I brought things to her attention that bothered me. I took pride in changing my oppressiveness. Alas, my mom  didn’t listen to my viewpoints. She was still disrespecting me and wanted things her way. This type of behavior grows old quickly, especially when you want a positive change in your relationships.

Each time, I took a step to talk,  I was ignored. Eventually, I recognized that talking to a person who is unwilling to listen and change, doesn’t require more energy. I eventually let go of my mom. While our relationship was close when I was younger, it broke into a million pieces, never to be restored. If she were willing to listen to my concerns and make observable changes, our relationship would’ve have been a healthier one.

My mom taught me a lot about confrontations. The built up anger and anxiety took a toll on me emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. Now, when something isn’t going well with any of my relationships, I step back and do an inventory on what isn’t working. I then formulate and rehearse a “practice speech,” to make sure I’m addressing the issue(s) and not putting the other person on the defensive. Does this work for me? In theory, it sounds great; especially when your intention is to clear the air and keep the friendship/relationship healthy. You can only do your part and trust that the other person is empathetic and respectful  enough to work with you. Within the last couple of years, I’ve had to do a number of confrontations. Was I fearful? You bet! Was my intention of healing and discussing the issues a pure one? Absolutely. Did they pan out like I wanted? No!

Just recently, I had to confront two friends who were clueless to give and take in a relationship. When I confronted both of them, they looked at me as if I was talking to them in Russian. They didn’t have the skills to change their behaviors. I’ve seen each of them at my local health club. When I greet them with a “Good morning,” they give me a silent stare and nothing else. In some situations, they avoid the locker room altogether until I leave. These behaviors show the smallness and insecurity of who they are. In this case, these 2 ex-friends showed a pattern similar to my mom.

In the words of Iyanla Vanzant, “When stupid’s coming, cross the street.” It’s so much easier on me when I see stupid behavior coming (that can’t be changed), I cross the street.

Question for you: What confrontational behaviors are you currently ignoring rather than addressing? (i.e. cheating lovers, verbal abuse etc.) How much longer will you “settle” before you confront and “cross the street?”
Focus: family, spirit, health, wellness


Sunday, September 25, 2016

Guardian Angels

Whether you’ve thought about it or not, guardian angels are proof of God’s love for you. They are a continuous reminder that you are not alone.

Your angels can’t  be conjured up on demand. They’re not “genies in a bottle.” They’re a constant companion to guide, help and inspire us.

You MUST ask your angels to help you.

Offer thanks for the celestial communication they provide.

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Words: Angels, God, celestial, communication

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Your Health Is A Blessing!

Many of us “busy folk” take our health for granted. We’re caught up in taking Jimmy to soccer practice and Susie to her ballet class. We don’t think about how our busy-ness can compromise our health.

Your health is a precious gift from Spirit. It IS the foundation for everything. If you don’t take care of yourself, there is no way you can be of help to family or friends.

If you have nothing but your health,  you are wealthy. With your health, you have EVERYTHING!

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Words: health, blessing, spirit

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Intuition And You

Your intuition or inner voice is what God gave you to maneuver safely through your life. 

Your intuition tries to communicate with you in inventive ways. One way, gets our attention by triggering a physical reaction in our bodies. Another way is warning us not to take a particular action. The last way is an inner knowing that helps us arrive at the right place at the right time.

Challenge yourself by going within to seek the wisdom and guidance of your authentic self. 

Your authentic self speaks to you in whispers of your intuition. In order to learn about its marvelous power, you must be willing to take a leap of faith and trust it. Put it to use in little ways. Use it every day and eventually it will flourish and enhance your life the way the other 5 senses do.

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Words: Intuition, communication, wisdom

Friday, September 9, 2016

Authentic Success And You


Authentic success is different for all of us. We all have to define what we want to achieve while we’re alive and healthy. Here are some pointers.
Authentic success is
  • ·         Taking time for yourself and your family
  • ·         Not putting off what you can do today
  • ·         Feeling focused and serene
  • ·         Accepting your limitations
  • ·         Calling forth and using the gifts God gives you
  • ·         Making a difference in other people’s lives
  • ·         Feeling good about who you are
  • ·         Celebrating your accomplishments
  • ·         Knowing you’re abundantly prosperous
  • ·         Being grateful for what you have
  • ·         Recognizing you’re BLESSED on a daily basis

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Words: Success, family, achievements, abundant, blessings