Saturday, October 31, 2015

Real Life: Be Aware

I once had a client who was a corporate recruiter. He stated, No one understands me. He was a YUPPIE - young, urban, professional. He was on a fast track to getting whatever he wanted. He didn't let anything stand in his way.

Until one day . .  His clients were disappearing and his business was failing. He couldn't figure it out.

Since he did all of his business on the phone, he missed something . . the body language of the people he was recruiting. Since he couldn't see them, he missed many of the cues that he needed to determine whether they were serious or not.

He was a visual learner in an auditory environment. He didn't understand his learning style (and didn't want to). He wanted a "quick fix." He didn't get it.

If you don't want to be aware, you won't see what you need to see.

In some cases, business suffers.

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Saturday, October 24, 2015

A Visual Connection (Part 1)

What type of learner are you -- a visual or an auditory one? One type of learner understands information through the ears (auditory) or when they hear it; another understands it through the eyes (visual) or when they see it. If you're one of those visual learners, you might understand why "the eyes have it."

The majority of language is nonverbal. That's right. You may say one thing with your words, but your body language might be saying something else. And, in order for your message to be in sync, and to come across clearly to others; both your verbal and nonverbal language have to work together. If they don't, you're not communicating as well as you need to, and you're wasting precious time.

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Saturday, October 17, 2015

Peace 101

Is there someone in your life who pushes your buttons EVERY TIME they see you? Someone like that messes up your attitude, your friendships and your peace of mind.

Toxic people are going to blame anyone but themselves - including you - for the problems in their lives, You have to realize that it's not about you. It's about them.

When these chaotic people get around you, you might start thinking,  Am, I going crazy? I know they're crazy, but am I crazy too?

No, you're not crazy. Remember, it's not about you.

It's not always possible to live at peace. There are some people who, no matter what you do, are still going to push your buttons. It doesn't have anything to do with you. It has to do with their pain and hurt.

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Sunday, October 11, 2015

The Rat Race

Are you guilty of being in the rat race? Are you ALWAYS in a hurry? Do you multi-task in an effort to get EVERYTHING done? STOP?

Rat races set you up for self-defeat. Don't buy into them.

Eliminate this stressful self-defeating behavior by deciding to create a more interesting life. Focus your mind on the POSITIVE. LQQK for the gifts in your day instead of hassles. When you do, you'll see things differently. There will be more opportunities for personal and spiritual growth. You'll see more solutions!

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Monday, October 5, 2015


Many of the t.v. preachers talk about the Great Plan God has for our lives. An important piece to that plan is to “let go of limitations” or limits. God’s plan  is BIGGER than we can even dream. What we have to remember is to think BIG or BIGGER than we can.

Whether you’re willing to admit it or not; we’re limited by our ideas because we’re human. We’re also limited by the patterns or ideas we’ve learned from our parents, or the family we grew up in.

I think we can relate to the things we “rolled our eyes at” when our parents tried to teach us something. I’m reminded of a line in Hairspray when Tracy Turnblad says to her mom, “You’re so 50’s!” As much as we try to do better; there are patterns, or challenges that we’re enmeshed in, and that we may never seem to overcome. Those challenges can be financial, ethnic, psychological and spiritual.

My parents grew up in The Great Depression. One of the themes I encountered was LACK -- lack of food, money, love and spirit. Through the support of a sensitive, knowledgeable counsellor, I was able to break free of many of these strongholds. What I had to ascertain was how deeply rooted these patterns were. In many cases (for my parents), when lack wasn’t triggered, they were “content” to watch the grass grow. That’s code for “I can’t take risks because there isn’t a game plan and I don’t want to fail!” There’s a LOT  to be said about people who remain content. Because, when you’re content, you remain neutral and passive. There isn’t any movement in your life because you don’t know how to risk.

Are you “content to watch the grass grow?” Are you stuck in a “pause” cycle and don’t know how to get rid of it? Maybe it’s time to get out of your rut and do something different? What’s your spirit telling you to start -- a new business, getting out of debt, enter the dating field? It doesn’t matter what the “thing” is. What’s important is that you take steps to break free of your limitations.

A thousand mile journey starts with a small step. Start stepping!

Question for you: What’s holding you back and why? Are there family patterns that you need to challenge?
Focus: Health, spirit, family, challenges, self-esteem, well-being