Tuesday, July 28, 2015
People who listen well, are respected. When they hear you, you feel special and validated! Effective listeners hear you the first time. That's because they have a vested interest in you. They aren't distracted. They PROJECT that YOU MATTER!
This is a powerful skill that generates results. If you aren't a good listener, you WILL have to work at it. It's a daily challenge but you CAN master it!
Do you have what it takes?
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Wednesday, July 22, 2015
When you're difficult or demanding, your positive qualities are overlooked. In addition, you create stress for you and others.
When you're pushy, you push people away. When you're gentle and kind, people are drawn to your sincerity.
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Wednesday, July 15, 2015
- Look at your situation and ask yourself what needs to get done. Ask God to give you wisdom.
- Devise a plan and a time table. A time table keeps you accountable.
- Take short breaks throughout your day. Allow your energy and creativity to be renewed.
- ALWAYS remember that no matter how much success you have, you never do things alone,
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Wednesday, July 8, 2015
This might sound saccharin sweet but your life can turn on a dime. You could be faced with a number of challenging situations that cause you to think differently about the life you have. When you come to understand what's most important to you (and make it your priority), you find your center. It's this center where you discover when your life is healthy and balanced!
One way to stay centered is to count your blessings every day. Yes, EVERY DAY! Why? Because it can get easy to take life for granted and feel sorry for yourself when things don't go as you hoped.
Why not create a different morning ritual? Before you put your feet on the floor; acknowledge what you're grateful for. You might even want to do a daily account of your blessings. Then, whenever life isn't going your way; take out your journal and take a LQQK at how you've been blessed!
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Thursday, July 2, 2015
Burnout: 1) physical or emotional exhaustion especially caused by stress, 2) depression or disillusionment
About a month after I graduated from Marquette University (circa 1980), I got my first job. It was with The Chicago Association For Retarded Citizens (CARC). I was working with a majority of people who had Down Syndrome.
In one facility, I worked in a cubicle that butted up against the office of my boss. I was a newbie and was gonna change the world with my newfound speech therapy skills. (In secret, I wanted to be the male version of Annie Suilivan. Annie taught Helen Keller all that she knew.) That all changed when my boss called me in to her office, gave me a book on job burnout, told me to read it and (in a month), give her a verbal account of what I thought of the book.
Truth be told, I was 23 years old. I was fresh out of grad school and wanted to make my “mark” in speech therapy. Back in the early 80’s, “job burnout” wasn’t relevant. I had never heard about it and it was NEVER addressed in grad school. Being the “obedient” employee, I took the book home and read it.
A month later, I apprehensively walked back into her office. So what did you think of the book? she said. I have no idea. I mean I read it, but have no idea about its content or even why you even gave it to me. Why did you? I said. Bob, it’s apparent that you’re responsible and you want to do great things with these kids but if you don’t go slow; you’re gonna burn out.” she said. I was lost. I had no idea what she was talking about. Tell me again why you gave me this book and what I’m supposed to learn from it? I asked.
She said the following, Downs kids learn slowly. Many of them are low functioning. Some may go on to a training workshop, many won’t. We’re here to help them but we have to be open and objective with what they will eventually learn. If you continue to want them to learn at your pace, you will get depressed and frustrated. That’s why I gave you the book. You are a bright , energetic man. It would be sad for you to leave us because of job burnout.
O.K, I’ll read the book again and let’s talk about it in a month. I reread the book and reported back to her. I told her that I had a better understanding of the kids but still needed insight. After all, she had been in this field longer than me.
In a short amount of time, she helped me considerably. One of the most important things I learned was patience and how burnout goes beyond a job.
I believe that ALL situations are set up to teach us something. Though that situation happened over 30 years ago, I remember it like it was yesterday. How do I apply it now?
At 58, I jump into many new situations. If I’m overwhelmed and “want to stay the course,” I recognize that I have to be patient (with myself). If I’ve stayed too long in a situation and recognize the signs of burnout; I know I have to leave so I don’t become exhausted, stressed out or depressed. Burnout applies to situations that go beyond work or employment. If we are feeling exhaustion, stress or depression, that should be a red flag that we need to reassess the situation.
Question for you: Are you experiencing “burnout?” What’s causing you to stay in it?
Focus: life, burnout, job, spirit, balance