Friday, October 31, 2014

Just One Thing!

Resolutions are self-promises we’ve ALL made (i.e. I’ll start an exercise program.I’ll be more careful with money.) Unless you’re really good with time management and diligence; you’ve probably failed repeatedly.

Most of us have good intentions. Those good intentions are ideas we have that motivate us to set and achieve goals. BUT, I’m going to  suggest a new way to set goals >> talk to God about it, and only do 1 goal at a time. O.K. I get the “Can you put God on hold for this blog piece?”  O.K., you’ve got a point. Let’s try a different approach. Instead of talking to God about it; go for a walk or set aside some “quiet time” to see what your “gut or inner voice” says. Let that force be your GPS to the one thing that you KNOW is important to bettering yourself. Maybe, you’re struggling with an addiction (i.e. food, drugs) or maybe your marriage needs a new direction with some positive energy?

Maybe another way to determine a goal is to ask yourself, “What one thing do I lack that I really want?” If we’re honest with ourselves, we’ll know what’s missing -- character, integrity, compassion or kindness.

Maybe you need to ask yourself what one thing do you need to let go of? If you’re moving forward but feeling dissatisfied, you may be holding on to a belief that you’re carrying from your past. You can’t dwell in the past; you HAVE to forgive, forget and move on!

Keeping resolutions can be frustrating for some, but if you focus on:
1) Getting clear with what your conscience tells you. 2) Focusing on something you lack, that can act as a catalyst for change. 3) Letting go of something that’s kept you from moving forward. You’ll have a different paradigm or game plan for changing the direction of your life.

Question for you: What one issue have you struggled with that this blog piece can help you break-through?
Focus: Life, game plan, self-esteem, goal setting, spirit, healing

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Leadership And You (Part 20)

Times of trouble can be useful. They can show you who you really are, and what kind of character you have. In addition, they can help you grow stronger. It's not a sign of weakness to ask for advice. Find good advisers before making any decision. They can help you expand your alternatives and evaluate your choices.

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Thursday, October 16, 2014

Ya Gotta Have Friends

You know you've gotta have friends                                         
The feeling's oh so strong
You've gotta have friends
To make that day last long        

I had some friends but they're gone
Something came and took them away

Bette Midler is famous for her friends song. For many of us, friends are our family (or are our 2nd family). Our friends provide us with a special kind of support that we just can't get from our family.

We all need friends who will stick close, listen, care and offer help when it is needed (in good times and in bad). It is better to have one such friend then dozens of superficial acquaintances. Instead of wishing you could find a true friend; seek to become one.

Forgiveness is essential for friendship to flourish. Friendship involves attitudes and actions. If you find it difficult to forgive someone who has hurt you, try responding with kindness. If appropriate, tell the person that you would like to heal your relationship. Lend a helping hand. Send him or her a gift. Smile at them. Many times, you will discover that right actions lead to right feelings.

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Sunday, October 12, 2014

The Importance Of A Mentor

I BELIEVE that all of us need mentors. They can be people who plant a seed; or those who stay to water it, and watch it flourish. Whether it’s someone who plants or one who waters; both are essential. Why? Because, we all need our own cheering section. Unless we’re encouraged CONSISTENTLY, we’re unable to reach our God-given potential.

Mentors can be family or friends. They can be living or dead. They can be famous or not. What’s important is that you get one. You’ll be amazed at what you’ll accomplish with someone who inspires you.

I have 2 mentors -- Barbra Streisand and Oprah Winfrey. Both have taught/inspired me to do great things. But, it’s Barbra who’s helped me the most on my journey.

I grew up in a family that was emotionally, psychologically and spiritually broken. My parents grew up and survived The Great Depression. They came together and married. I don’t think they loved each other. I think they married and had kids because that was the thing to do. Why do I bring this up? Because, when you have broken people coming together, they don’t have the skills to validate each other, or their kids. Consequently, all the family members flounder for lack of direction.

When I was 11, my mom was diagnosed with an enlarged heart. To hear her talk, “The doctor said my heart is the size of a football. I have 6 months to live.” I can’t imagine what went through her mind, knowing that she had 2 kids (11 and 9 respectively) to raise; knowing full well that my dad didn’t have the capacity or skills to do it alone.

ENTER my Aunt Emily >> my mom was always tight with my Aunt “Mimi” (as we called her). She was in my life since I was a baby. I know that behind closed doors, my mom asked my aunt to be my long-term care giver. Without missing a beat, my aunt said “yes.” My aunt did something really cool for me that summer. She introduced me to film. She created a special time for us that involved spending the day downtown.  That first summer, I noticed the poster for Funny Girl. I asked her if she would take me to see the film when it opened. She did and the rest is history. From 11 on to adulthood, I was attracted to Barbra Streisand and what she did. Whether it was a new album or film, I was drawn to her work. What is strange about all of this is, I didn’t know why! (On one level, I liked her journey. She grew up poor, and made something of herself. She never compromised her “look.” When she was told “no,” she kept pressing forward. I liked that about her.) On another level, I couldn’t understand what was happening to me. It seemed that everytime I was at a crossroads, a piece of her work would “speak” to me and inevitably guide me to a positive outcome.

It was only when I was in my 30’s did I realize that she was my mentor. I had heard the word “mentor” but had no idea the importance of one, on our lives. At this stage of my life, her presence still guides me. I look at challenges this way, “If Barbra did it and was successful, so can I!”

A “mentor” encourages and inspires us. I believe that we all need them. We all need validation. Without validation,we flounder. We have no direction. When you have a mentor that challenges you, you move forward on your life path!

Question for you: Are you stuck with your life purpose? Maybe you need a mentor? Who is someone that you are drawn to? 

Focus: Communication, mentor, spirit, life purpose

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Your Body Of Work!

Many people look forward to retirement. When they finally get there; they don't know how to enjoy it. They recognize they were working, just to get a pay check and get by. Realistically, life passed them by. They lost sight and perspective of being/living in the moment!

Starting today, take a much more productive/positive approach to your life. LQQK at each day as an opportunity to create your own personal body of work. A body of work is more than the things (i.e. awards or achievements) that many consider important. A body of work involves people.

Start with the people that are close to you >> family, friends, colleagues. Spend time with them. Value them for who they are. Share experiences with them. Value them for who they are. Build relationships that endure; that have substance. People are what matter to you, far more than possessions. Start there!

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Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Leadership And You (Part 19)

There is a great difference between the person who learns from criticism and the person who refuses to accept correction. How we respond to criticism determines whether or not we grow in wisdom. The next time someone criticizes you, listen carefully to all that is said, you might learn something.

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