Saturday, September 29, 2012

A Good Idea!

Begin your journey with a positive step! Go to your library and ask a librarian for suggestions for GREAT self-help books. Pick out a couple and read them.

It's JUST A GOOD IDEA!

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Monday, September 24, 2012

Start With Listening!

Listening is an important part of communication. Here are 4 ways to improve this skill:

  1. Maintain consistent eye-contact with your speaker.
  2. Make use of mirroring. That means repeating (in your own words) what the speaker said. 
  3. Be empathetic. Nothing validates a person more, than standing in their shoes, for THEIR perspective.
  4. Don't judge. Remain open and receptive to what is said. Nothing shuts down communication (more) than a judgmental attitude.
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Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Communication At Work (Part 1)

You can spend thousands of dollars investing in a wardrobe to maintain a professional image, but nothing creates a more lasting impression than the ability to communicate effectively.

People communicate on two levels -- verbal and nonverbal. Together, this creates the way people respond to you. What makes up verbal and nonverbal communication? Verbal communication encompasses articulation, language, voice and rate. Articulation is all about the sounds we use, when we speak. Language is all about the words and sentences we use in conversation (i.e. grammar might be another way to describe it). Rate is all about the speed we use, when we talk. You can speak fast or slow. If an excessive or slow rate is used, it calls attention to itself and may "turn off" the listener. You need to be able to gauge an appropriate rate, when you are talking on the phone, with your friends, or in public. Your voice is the pitch (high/low), or volume (loud/soft), when you speak.  << To be continued. >>

Food for Thought:

Out of the verbal parts of communication (articulation, language, rate and voice), which one(s) need your attention? Do you speak clearly? Do you use appropriate language (or use a lot of slang)? How's your speaking rate? Have people mentioned that may be you speak too fast? How's your voice? Is it powerful? Does it make a statement?

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Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Think You're a Bully?

Bullying has been around FOREVER, but NOT as prominent as NOW. It takes place in schools, at work and on the internet. Here are 12 statements to identify 1) Whether you are a bully, or 2) You know of someone that is a bully. If you answer "yes" to 1 or 2 of  these statements, you may be on your way to becoming a bully. If you answer "yes" to 3 or more of these statements, you probably are a bully!

  1.  I pick on people who are smaller than me.
  2.  I like to tease others.
  3.  I like to see others get upset.
  4.  I think it's funny when other people make mistakes.
  5.  I like to take and destroy other people's property.
  6.  I want other kids in school to think I'm tough.
  7.  I get angry and stay angry.
  8.  I blame other people for things that go wrong in my life.
  9.  I like to get revenge on other people who have hurt me.
  10.  I always have to win at a game or a sport.
  11.  I worry what others think when I lose at something.
  12.  I get angry and jealous when my friends succeed.
Well, how did you do? Are you a bully? Are you getting there?

If you are a parent (or teacher), and need help, please call 708-531-8002 and ask about our life-coaching strategies for bullies (or potential bullies). You can visit our website: bob-time.com for more information.

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Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Just A Good Idea!

Employees need to know how they come across. Incorporate communication  into your company's mission statement. Show that your company supports and accepts people who are communicatively challenged. When you make a statement, it keeps you accountable.

It's Just A Good Idea!

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