Thursday, August 30, 2012

The Disease To Please!

You waste a lot of time and energy trying to figure out what other people want you to be, rather than just being yourself. This is dangerous because when you're worried about what other people think, you cave into criticism. You don't do what's right for you, but what everybody wants you  to do.

Fact 1: You can't please everybody, so STOP trying!

Fact 2: It's not necessary to please everyone, so STOP trying! You don't have to please everybody  in order to be happy in your life.

Fact 3: Rejection will not ruin your life unless you let it. Quit trying to please everybody. Remember that nobody can make you feel inferior unless you  give them your permission.

Think About It
Who are you concerned with pleasing?

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Friday, August 24, 2012

Just Admit It!

When you're faced with a conflict, instead of accusing or attacking the other person, begin with humility. This is true even if the conflict is their fault. Everyone has blind spots. No one is perfect. There are things that we do that contribute to the "fire." And yes, we have trouble seeing them.

Before you start your "attack," do a self-evaluation. Ask yourself how much of the conflict is your fault. If you're wrong, just admit it!

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Saturday, August 18, 2012

"Proper" Correction

Correcting someone in a respectful way is powerful! When it's done the right way, it builds people up. When it's done the wrong way, it chips away at a person's spirit and self-esteem.

If all you're doing is pointing out a person's faults, then stop! You need to ask yourself, "What's my motive here? Am I correcting them for my benefit or theirs?"

The key to proper correction >> Validate the person; correct the behavior!

Self-check:

1) What bad habits have you formed when you have to mentor, or correct people?

2) In what ways can you validate before you correct?

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Saturday, August 11, 2012

Truth and Love

I'm wondering, truth and love are frequently discussed in our world, but seldom practiced.

From politicians to salesmen, people conveniently ignore or conceal facts and use words to enhance positions or sell products. Perjury is common, and integrity and credibility are an endangered species. Words, twisted in meaning and torn from context, have become mere tools for ego building. It is not surprising that we have to "swear" to tell the truth.

And what about love? our world is filled with its words -- popular songs, Hallmark greeting cards, and romantic novels shower us with notions and dreams about ideal relationships and feelings. Real love, however, is scarce - selfless giving, caring, sharing. We yearn to love and be loved but see few living examples of real love.

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Monday, August 6, 2012

Help!

It is not a sign of weakness to ask for help or advice. In fact, it's foolish not to ask. Good advice from a trusted advisor can help you expand your  alternatives and evaluate your choices.

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