Monday, October 25, 2010

3 Steps to Overcome Anger

Anger is a killer - literally. Outward anger can lead people to pick up a gun and end the life of someone who pissed you off. Inward anger kills you physically, psychologically and spiritually. BOTH ARE DETRIMENTAL!

Here are 3 ways to change the trajectory or path that anger might take. 1) STOP and think: Many people lash out when they are angry, "You dirty son . . . I hate your guts!" Words cut AS deeply as a knife. Avoid disaster by thinking first, pausing and then deciding how to act or respond. Giving yourself time to "think things through" is a God-send. 2) Look and re-view: When you can step into another person's shoes, you have the chance to "re-view" the situation and take yourself out of it. When you can review something, you give yourself some "mature time" to overlook the hurt(s), frustration(s) and /or insecurity(ies) that might have caused the initial explosion. Anger comes from how you see a situation. Change your anger by changing your point of view. 3) Listen to others: When you take the time to listen to another person, you get a chance to see  who they are and what they're all about. An angry person is someone who is carrying hurt. When you listen, you give anger a chance to dissipate and evaporate. There is a quote in the Bible that addresses this, "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to be angry." (James 1:19). Do the first two and the third will be automatic. be quick to listen and slow to speak. When you do, you WILL be slow to anger.

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Monday, October 18, 2010

Some Things About Anger

Anger is not necessarily wrong OR always bad. What's important is the why and the what. Why you got angry and what  you'll do with the feelings once the anger is triggered.

Anger is never the root of the problem. There is always  an underlying issue. Basically, anger is an emotional  reaction to some other components -- hurt, frustration or fear. Hurt is triggered when you absorb anger either physically or emotionally. Frustration is triggered when things didn't go your way.  Fear is triggered when you're threatened or feeling insecure.

When you can focus or identiify on the real cause (hurt - frustration - fear), it's easier to control anger. It's a fact that you can't eliminate hurt, frustration or fear. But, you can learn to deal with them and realize that anger is a choice.

When you're angry, it's because you've chosen to be that way!

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Monday, October 11, 2010

Anger: Deal With It!

When you hear  someone say "That burns me up!" believe them. There is a scientific correlation between anger and a person's physical/psychological health. Anger attacks your body in profound (and subtle) ways. And when you hold on to it, it ages you and diminishes your spirit.

Anger is a dangerous and intense emotion. It's dangerous on a physical, social and spiritual level. It also affects your relationship to God.

The next time you're holding on to anger, ask yourself if it's worth it. In most cases, it won't be! Then let it go and move on.

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Monday, October 4, 2010

Your Heart's Desire!

The words heart and love are connected. When you do something from your heart, you connect with a source of your emotions. What does that mean? It means that you do something because you care deeply about it, or love it.

"I love to paint." (You put all of your heart into it.)
"I love my kids." (You sacrifice everything and put them first.)

We all have a unique emotional heartbeat. It is a unique spiritual compass that undoubtedly guides all of us to how we can make a difference. We get excited about things that interest us . . . and that also includes your life's work or life purpose.

Doing something with heart or from your heart implies something inbred, something that interests you.

Another word to describe this, IS passion.

Don't ignore your interests - they may be pointing you in the direction of your "heart's desire."

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