Monday, March 29, 2010

It's About Conviction!

Hear This Now: If you don't have a conviction to anything, you are at the mercy of circumstances. If you don't determine what's important, you will let other people do that for you!

A person without conviction is weak and just follows the crowd. Conviction helps you be diligent in growing on an emotional and spiritual level. Growth requires time and effort. Without conviction, people become discouraged and eventually give up. No one stays with a task unless there is good reason for doing it.

People who make the greatest impact, are those with a deep conviction to something!

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Monday, March 22, 2010

Your Self Talk

Your past and present experiences are alive and well in the form of your "self-talk."  "Self-talk" happens in your head and  involves messages that you  continue to play over and over again.

For people with healthy self-esteem the self-talk is positive and reassuring. For those with low self-esteem, the self-talk is harsh and critical.

Do you beat yourself up for something that you've done? Do you struggle with something that you know you should do, but talk yourself out of. That's your self-talk!

Self-talk says things like "You can't do that. You're gonna fail. You're a loser!" Change THOSE tapes to something positive!

We all have self-talk tapes. TALK BACK TO THEM -- NOW! Let them know that YOU are in control!

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Monday, March 15, 2010

Change Comes Slowly

We live in a fast-paced world. We want things 3 years ago, yesterday. If we don't (or can't) get a "quick fix" to a situation, we get frustrated. Why does it take so long to "get it?"
  • New things take time. We have to relearn something forty or fifty times to really get it. We need  repeated exposure.
  • There is much to unlearn. Many people go for help and want it immediately. They want a quick solution to something that is deeply rooted. Since many problems don't develop overnight, it's unrealistic to expect them to go away quickly. Change requires a "remove and replace" mindset.
  • Growth requires change. There is no change without loss, and there is no loss without some pain.
  • In order to get to a new behavior, you have to let go of the old. Take your time to develop new behaviors!
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Monday, March 8, 2010

Promises

Do any of these sound familiar:
  • promising a delivery date and not following through
  • volunteering for a job and then realizing it's taken way too long 
  • agreeing to a deal that looked great, but wasn't
  • accepting an invitation, then wanting to get out
There's a simple solution to these dilemmas!

A philosophy to live by: choose your commitments carefully, think things through before you say anything, under-promise and over-deliver. With this, you'll build a solid reputation as a person who says what they mean and means what they say.

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Monday, March 1, 2010

Trust and Respect

The most important elements to communication are trust and respect. When you trust someone enough to be honest with them, you grow to respect them.

Trust is tied to communication. Every time you communicate honestly,  trust increases. When the trust is high, communication is easy because it is effortless, spontaneous and effective. When the trust is low, communication is exhausting and time consuming.

Where there is trust, there is respect.

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(Excerpt from Communication At Work -- Putting It Together) Robert Roza