Sunday, December 26, 2010

Delegation and Authority

Delegation of authority requires a tremendous amount of trust. Maybe that is why there are so many confused employees, because there are so many fearful people at the top. When leaders operate from a base of fear, they can't delegate. A leader who does not delegate will end up with a group of yes people.  Leaders must share information. When they can do this, they empower other people.

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Saturday, December 18, 2010

A Higher Force to Communication

What usually happens when you ignore your instincts? Usually, you get yourself into trouble. Because, when you suppress and distrust your intuition and look for validation from someone else, you give away your personal power. If you trust and follow them right away, you've saved yourself a lot of aggravation. It's important to remember that there is always a HIGHER FORCE guiding you. You might not see it but it is always there!

You might ask, "How does a Higher Force find its way into communication?" Easy, when you really see a person's face and body language change in a second because of your approach, (or what you learned), you know it's not just you. You know there is something else out there helping you do it.

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(Excerpt from Communication (is easy) from the Inside-Out -- 7 Steps to Your Personal Power by Bob Roza)

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Just The Facts . .

Customers and clients come from different backgrounds. These backgrounds are made up of different languages and cultures. English is often spoken as a second or third language. Communicating with these customers requires new skills and understanding.

The facts: 1) When the customer and the business are from the SAME culture (i.e. American); and speak the same language (i.e. English), communication and customer satisfaction can sometimes be difficult, 2) When the customer and the business are from different cultures and speak different languages; communication and customer satisfaction can be very difficult.

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Sunday, December 5, 2010

Is Something Wrong With Me?

We all have had moments where bad situations weren't handled well. In the process, we kill ourselves with the inner voice that says "something is wrong with me." We forget our goodness and believe the badness because in many situations, the "critical tape" was given to us a long time ago. It might have been given in anger or frustration. It might have been given by someone in authority -- parent, teacher, boss. It might have been given when we were younger. What needs to happen is that we recognize its "staying power" and choose to change it. After all, being negative to yourself isn't something that helps you, does it?

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Sunday, November 28, 2010

Leave The "Victim" Behind!

Getting out of the victim trap involves an awareness of developing a new habit. Healthy habits are learned in the same way as unhealthy ones, through practice. Three steps will get you there! There is a method to handling these situations so they lose their power (and you regain yours)!

1) Recognize a negative thought and its crippling effect. 2) Treat the thought as if it were told to you by a person who wanted to make your life miserable. 3) Fight the negative with the positive. Think of situations where present evidence proved something different. Challenge the negative!

This sounds easy on paper (and the first time may be a disaster), but it's important to work on it -- work toward getting better -- to neutralize or "neuter" the negative thoughts.

Once  you get this method under your belt, something magical will happen -- you'll be a better listener. Here's how: when you're paying attention to your "critical voice," you can't hear anything else. That's because it drowns out the other person and puts you on "automatic." You automatically react to situations without realizing that maybe, just maybe, you said something intelligent.

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Monday, November 22, 2010

Left Over Habits!

Victims almost always operate from a reference of weakness. They let themselves be pushed around because they feel they're not smart enough to take charge of their lives. So, what they do is hand over their personal power to someone who they feel is "smarter" or "stronger" rather than risk being self-assertive.

You're a victim when life isn't working for you. When you behave in self-defeating ways, are miserable, hurt, anxious, afraid to be yourself and are immobilized; then you are a victim. You may be carrying left over habits from childhood which made sense then (but not now). You may be bull-dozed by someone and  got accustomed to taking it . . out of habit.

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Monday, November 15, 2010

Bad Messages!

Victims are people who run their lives according to the rules of others. (Think of those messages that you got as you grew up; and see the generational connection in how it got to you  through your parents, grandparents and great-grandparents.) They do things they really would not do. They are done with resentment because they've been manipulated through guilt and shame. To be victimized means to be governed by forces outside of yourself. But, you can rarely be victimized unless you allow it to happen. Many times, these "tapes" are generational. You just don't see how deep they go.

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Monday, November 8, 2010

It's Called "Active Listening!"

More than seventy five percent of networking requires you to listen for information and the answers related to it. This is called "active listening." It requires you to be in the moment and to listen to the total person.

Tips for listening:
  • "Commit" to listen and concentrate on the speaker
  • Observe body language for emotions and unspoken meanings
  • Keep your mind "open" to what is said
  • Listen for topics that are of mutual interest
  • Give feedback through smiling, eye-contact and asking questions

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Monday, November 1, 2010

Try a Re-Do OR a Do-Over!

Stop stewing and kicking yourself. When you see yourself going backwards and you're entering "I shoulda done better" territory, you NEED to stop immediately and regroup.

Try a "re-do." You only have today to live your best life. Take a breath, tell yourself that it's not the end of the world, figure out a new plan B and go for it. Does "plan B" seem too overwhelming? Well, break it down into baby-steps. Breaking a task down into baby-steps makes it easier to manage.

Get through your life's speed bumps by taking charge of your life!

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Monday, October 25, 2010

3 Steps to Overcome Anger

Anger is a killer - literally. Outward anger can lead people to pick up a gun and end the life of someone who pissed you off. Inward anger kills you physically, psychologically and spiritually. BOTH ARE DETRIMENTAL!

Here are 3 ways to change the trajectory or path that anger might take. 1) STOP and think: Many people lash out when they are angry, "You dirty son . . . I hate your guts!" Words cut AS deeply as a knife. Avoid disaster by thinking first, pausing and then deciding how to act or respond. Giving yourself time to "think things through" is a God-send. 2) Look and re-view: When you can step into another person's shoes, you have the chance to "re-view" the situation and take yourself out of it. When you can review something, you give yourself some "mature time" to overlook the hurt(s), frustration(s) and /or insecurity(ies) that might have caused the initial explosion. Anger comes from how you see a situation. Change your anger by changing your point of view. 3) Listen to others: When you take the time to listen to another person, you get a chance to see  who they are and what they're all about. An angry person is someone who is carrying hurt. When you listen, you give anger a chance to dissipate and evaporate. There is a quote in the Bible that addresses this, "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to be angry." (James 1:19). Do the first two and the third will be automatic. be quick to listen and slow to speak. When you do, you WILL be slow to anger.

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Monday, October 18, 2010

Some Things About Anger

Anger is not necessarily wrong OR always bad. What's important is the why and the what. Why you got angry and what  you'll do with the feelings once the anger is triggered.

Anger is never the root of the problem. There is always  an underlying issue. Basically, anger is an emotional  reaction to some other components -- hurt, frustration or fear. Hurt is triggered when you absorb anger either physically or emotionally. Frustration is triggered when things didn't go your way.  Fear is triggered when you're threatened or feeling insecure.

When you can focus or identiify on the real cause (hurt - frustration - fear), it's easier to control anger. It's a fact that you can't eliminate hurt, frustration or fear. But, you can learn to deal with them and realize that anger is a choice.

When you're angry, it's because you've chosen to be that way!

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Monday, October 11, 2010

Anger: Deal With It!

When you hear  someone say "That burns me up!" believe them. There is a scientific correlation between anger and a person's physical/psychological health. Anger attacks your body in profound (and subtle) ways. And when you hold on to it, it ages you and diminishes your spirit.

Anger is a dangerous and intense emotion. It's dangerous on a physical, social and spiritual level. It also affects your relationship to God.

The next time you're holding on to anger, ask yourself if it's worth it. In most cases, it won't be! Then let it go and move on.

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Monday, October 4, 2010

Your Heart's Desire!

The words heart and love are connected. When you do something from your heart, you connect with a source of your emotions. What does that mean? It means that you do something because you care deeply about it, or love it.

"I love to paint." (You put all of your heart into it.)
"I love my kids." (You sacrifice everything and put them first.)

We all have a unique emotional heartbeat. It is a unique spiritual compass that undoubtedly guides all of us to how we can make a difference. We get excited about things that interest us . . . and that also includes your life's work or life purpose.

Doing something with heart or from your heart implies something inbred, something that interests you.

Another word to describe this, IS passion.

Don't ignore your interests - they may be pointing you in the direction of your "heart's desire."

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Monday, September 27, 2010

The Cost Of Procrastination

Every time you procrastinate, you shout out to the world, "Hey I want to avoid this situation! I'm a weakling. Maybe, I'll try this tomorrow."

Here are 2 costs to procrastinating: 1) Deep Problems: attacking a problem when it's little, helps you  nip it in the bud IMMEDIATELY. Ever heard a doctor say "We caught this early. We don't need to worry about any long-term effects." This is one example of being proactive. When you procrastinate, a problem becomes a crisis. The longer you wait, the harder it is to start. 2) Wasted Opportunities: When opportunity knocks, open the door and walk through it. When you procrastinate, you miss great opportunities.

Don't kill your spirit with procrastination!

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Monday, September 20, 2010

Quit The Lies!

A healthy spirit instills confidence. In order to get to your healthy "core" and have no-quit confidence, you HAVE to quit all the lies you've been told.

"I'm not attractive enough." "My parents said I was a mistake. They wish I was never born." Stuff like that weighs you down and ages you. Stop the madness and quit the lies. Take a stand and don't listen to the negativity that was told to you over and over.

Quit your "distorted image" of yourself! Start saying, "I'm acceptable, smart and loving. I'm capable, vibrant and have something to contribute."

Watch what happens when you change the channel and tune in to a different frequency!

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Monday, September 13, 2010

Do "it" with heart!

Did you know that many people rarely excel at work that they don't enjoy? It's because they don't have a  passion or excitement for what they do. It's important to have a passion for your work.

What are the signs and signals that indicate that you love what you do? Well, the  first sign is enthusiasm. When you love what you do, you don't need a motivator or someone to watch over you. You do it for the enjoyment. And, when you're not doing work that you love, you get discouraged and distracted. The second sign is effectiveness. When your DNA is wired to love your work, you recognize "I'm really good at this!" The last sign is satisfaction. When you're satisfied, your heart and spirit are happy. Enthusiasm, effectiveness and satisfaction. Three elements for doing "it" with heart.

Don't waste a day doing a job that doesn't bring you personal satisfaction.

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Monday, September 6, 2010

It's About Leaders!

Wise leaders accomplish a lot without direct involvement. They know how to work through other people. They can see the big picture that often escapes other people. They make great mediators, advisers and planners.

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Monday, August 30, 2010

Get Over Discouragement!

Did you know that discouragement is curable? Get "in touch" with the four common behaviors that sabotage a goal.

1) [FATIGUE] You wear out after a while. It's important to not burn your candle at both ends. When you need a break, take it. Come back to a task  when you have a clear head.

2) [FRUSTRATION] Distractions or  disturbances lead to frustration. This is clear when you are in a groove and the "little things" start  to pile up to take you away from what you need to do. When you start to experience, "one more thing, one more thing," your frustration button will be pushed.

3) [FAILURE] If you can't finish a task within a certain time, you think you've failed or are a "loser!" It's not about losing. It's about perspective. Did you have the right resources or tools to get the job done? Hindsight is 20/20. Getting a perspective will give you another chance to get things rolling and get to your goal!

4) [FEAR] When fear is triggered, so is discouragement. The negative tapes start, "I'm a loser at this. I can't do this. This is all too much!" Fear and discouragement are killers! Yes, these 2 traits can destroy your life. Resist the fear and discouragement by changing your "growth channel."

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Monday, August 23, 2010

You ARE Capable!

For some people, "self-confidence" is based on what other people think. We buy into this idea in order to be accepted. We do what the trend is. The truth of the matter is that the "trend" is an illusion. Self-confidence comes from within, it's not based on a "trend." It's not based on the latest pair of shoes, or jeans, or where you live. It comes from a strong core belief that you are acceptable just the way that you are!

Start today. What makes you unique? What spiritual gifts do you have that makes you "stand out?"

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Monday, August 16, 2010

It Starts With A Thought!

"Change the way that you look at things and the things that you look at will change." This is a powerful thought from The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer. Any behavior starts with a thought and here are 3 POWERFUL ones!

1. My "life" interpretation influences my situation: Situations happen and you have a choice in how to handle them. That choice is based on how you see the situation. Your reaction can be either positive or negative.

2. My beliefs influence my behavior: You act on our beliefs. If you believed that the "bogey-man" was in your closet, your body reacted in fear. It's important that you have true (not imagined) information yo make an educated decision. Your convictions about yourself and your life are connected to behavior.

3. Self-talk influences self-esteem: We constantly talk to ourselves. Don't run yourself down with negative self-talk. If you are doing this now, cut yourself some slack.

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Monday, August 9, 2010

Sound Decisions!

Here are 3 ways to make sound decisions:
  1. Get your facts straight before you answer any question.
  2. Be open to new ideas.
  3. Hear both sides to the story.
All three of these principles center around more information. You need more information BEFORE you make a decision. If you "jump" you are prone to prejudice and judgement.

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Monday, August 2, 2010

How Are Your People Skills?

Whether you're looking to find your first job, or change the one you have, you need to network. Effective networking skills are skills that empower you. They enable you to access and share information, resources and support, in a manner that achieves goals and purposes. How are your people skills? Check the statements that apply to you:
  • I'm not easily intimidated
  • I can express myself easily
  • I ask for help when I need it
  • I look for the "good" in people
  • When I talk, people listen
  • People don't think I'm boring
  • I strike up conversations with people
  • I listen to others viewpoints
  • I have skills that are valuable
How did you  do? Did you check off many statements or did you look at them and think, "I need to work on it."

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(Excerpt from Networking: 6 Ways To Improve People Skills -- Improving Your Communication)

Monday, July 26, 2010

You Might Learn Something!

There is a BIG difference with someone who learns from criticism and someone who refuses to accept it. How you respond to criticism determines whether or not you can grow in wisdom. The next time you are faced with "constructive criticism," listen to all that is said. You might learn something!

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Monday, July 19, 2010

Ask Good Questions!

When you ask good questions, you're searching for people and the information to meet your needs. Many people don't get what they need, because they don't ask the right questions.

Here are 3 tips:
  • Formulate your questions ahead of time.
  • Open ended questions that use the words "How" or "Why" get to the heart of things and keep conversations going.
  • Questions that use the words, "Who, when, where and what" get you more direct and factual information.

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(Excerpt from Networking: 6 Ways to Improve People Skills -- Improving Your Communication)

Monday, July 12, 2010

To Network is to Empower!

An effective networker empowers others. When you empower, you display a genuine interest and a helpful attitude. When you empower others, you multiply their efforts and lead them.

Tips on empowering:
  • People want to be valued. When you see something of value, tell the person. 
  • When you listen, you communicate value.
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(Excerpt from Networking: 6 Ways To Improve People Skills -- Improving Your Communication)

Monday, July 5, 2010

Your Mental Diet!

What you feed your mind is just as important as what you feed your body. The books you read, the music you listen to, the movies you watch, and the people you talk to, are all a part of your mental diet. Be aware of what you feed your mind because what goes into your mind, goes into your body and influences your TOTAL health and well-being. A strong desire to discover knowledge is a mark of "inner-wisdom."

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Monday, June 28, 2010

It Takes Work!

Anything that is important to YOU, is worth a struggle -- getting a new job, financing college, paying off your mortgage. Many times, discouragement enters the picture.

When you get discouraged, don't give up! Nothing worthwhile ever happens without endurance and your energy. When an artist creates a sculpture, he chips away at it and it becomes a great art piece. The same holds true for life. Anything important, happens gradually.

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Monday, June 21, 2010

Change and Growth

"I'll start tomorrow." Tomorrow after tomorrow comes and NOTHING. Why is that? Why are so many people unable to move forward? Well, 2 reasons:
  • Slow learners -- It takes the average person maybe 40 times to finally learn something. We can think that we learned our lesson the first time. "Lessons" comes in different packages. In order to learn a lesson, you have to pay attention and understand that repeated exposure is key.
  • Unlearning old stuff -- Many folks like a quick fix to a problem. Deep-rooted  problems take a while to understand and then change. Old habits and thoughts didn't develop in a day so it's unrealistic that they can be fixed in a day!

Growing up (growth) can be scary. In order to grow, you have to face change. There is no change without loss. And you know what? We all fear LOSS. In order to experience the new, you have to let go of the old.

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Monday, June 14, 2010

Ya Gotta Have Faith!

Faith is defined as a verb. It's active, not passive. You have to put energy into it. You also have to understand that it's invisible. Faith is belief in a "good unknown." When you operate in faith, you've stepped forward into the good unknown.

When you operate in faith you do two things. 1) You invest your time and energy. You lay things on the line and trust God. 2) You let go of your safety net and sense of security.

When you walk in faith, you have to let go of the past and move forward. Think of a trapeze artist. Their art and skill requires a leap of faith. Every time they swing out and let go, they trust that their partner will catch them. Your partner in this faith walk is God. When you swing out, you trust and believe that God is there.

He will not let you go. But "ya gotta have faith!"

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Monday, June 7, 2010

Faith in a Dream!

ALL things happen WHEN God decides! Many times we try to control an outcome. Here are 5 stages of "faith in a dream."

1) Dream: Do you have a dream? If not, get quiet and pray on it. Connecting to your Higher Power is the best way to get clarity.

2) Decide: Many times the realization of the dream can be overwhelming. When you're overwhelmed, you get stuck. Walking by faith is key here. Once you decide on the dream, you take a leap of faith in how it will happen.

3) Delay: "My dream is not happening fast enough." Sometimes, we have to wait on God. Don't jump and try to control the outcome. Many times we self-sabotage  situations because we want them to happen in "our time." God's timing is perfect. Wait on God to show Himself.

4) Obstacles and Snags: You're gonna be tested to see what you're made of. The "tests" develop your character. Remember to pray and persevere. God's got your back.

5) Finish Line: It may take a while but with faith and perseverance comes the  finish line. All good things come to those who will wait. When you wait on God and trust in His power, you get a dream that is realized, powerful and fulfilling.

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Thursday, June 3, 2010

A Month of EMPOWERMENT!

Follow us through out June on Facebook for a month of EMPOWERMENT. We will feature a daily selection of songs to EMPOWER and assist you to be the best that you can be!

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Monday, May 31, 2010

Success and Dreams

Success is doing the best that you can with what you have. Don't let other people set YOUR standard and don't live someone else's dream.

God puts dreams inside all of us. A dream declares and shouts out "I'm unique." A dream holds potential and only you can give birth to it. When you don't act on your dream, you do a disservice to you and others (who wil benefit from it).

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Monday, May 24, 2010

Successful People

Successful people love what they do and  do what they love. They allow their passions and talent to guide them. They do this because talent, purpose and potential always go hand in hand.

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Monday, May 17, 2010

Say YES to You!

Reaching your God-given potential requires taking responsibility for yourself and your life. It means taking an active role with yourself.

How do you do this? By saying "yes" to yourself, to hope and to your dream(s). Every time you say yes, you open yourself up to your potential, and to greater possibilities. Never forget that you are a miracle, that you are unique and possess talents, experiences and opportunities that no one else has ever had, or will ever have.

It is your responsibility to become everything that you are, not only for your benefit, but also for everyone else's.

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Monday, May 10, 2010

The Power of Choice!

The power of choice is the greatest power that any person possesses. Many people accept their lives. They don't become leaders of themselves. As a result, they can't get out of their own way. Choosing to lead your life, and not just accepting it, is critical to owning your dream!

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Monday, May 3, 2010

Dreams

Did you know that your dreams are fragile? This is true when they are new to you, when they are in your mind, and when people around you say "Are you kidding? You can NEVER do that!"

Confidence is key to YOUR dream. You also have to have self-knowledge about yourself. YOU are the only person who can make YOUR Dream happen. You have to DREAM big!

Oprah Winfrey says, "God has a dream for you that is bigger than you could have ever dreamed for yourself." We are all unique and have talents to help others. It's just the matter of going within and seeing what YOU do better than anyone else.

Talk to God about it. Ask Him, "How do I make my dream happen?" Then listen and watch what happens!

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Monday, April 26, 2010

Availability!

Are you a good friend and colleague? There is a big difference between knowing someone and being a good-true friend. Genuine friendship exhibits loyalty. You need to be available in times of distress and personal struggle. Many people are fair-weather friends. They stick around when the friendship is good, but leave when they no longer get anything out of it.

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Monday, April 19, 2010

It's About Choice(s)

The most valuable thing you have right now is your ability to make choices. Every choice you have ever made led you to where you are right now. When you use your freedom of choice, you have access to an amazing power.

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Monday, April 12, 2010

4 Ways to Self-Discipline!

Successful people have a common trait: personal discipline. They are willing to do things that other people don't want to do. They master their self-discipline in the following ways:
  • They live by their commitments
  • They watch their words
  • They restrain their reactions
  • They stick to a schedule
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Monday, April 5, 2010

Tapes in Your Head

Negative self-talk is your inner dialogue. Some researchers have estimated that there are 25,000 hours of these tapes in a human's head. And we all have them! Usually, these voices tell us that we are unlovable, worthless, or bad. The negative self-talk may be experienced as a thought. The majority of the time, it is partially (or totally) unconscious. Most of us are unaware of the habitual activity of the voice in our heads. We become aware of it in certain stressful situations when shame is activated. And this internalized shame causes you to focus on a particular group of automatic thoughts, to the exclusion of anything that is positive. This preoccupation creates a kind of tunnel vision in which you think only one kind of thought, and notice only one aspect of your environment.

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Monday, March 29, 2010

It's About Conviction!

Hear This Now: If you don't have a conviction to anything, you are at the mercy of circumstances. If you don't determine what's important, you will let other people do that for you!

A person without conviction is weak and just follows the crowd. Conviction helps you be diligent in growing on an emotional and spiritual level. Growth requires time and effort. Without conviction, people become discouraged and eventually give up. No one stays with a task unless there is good reason for doing it.

People who make the greatest impact, are those with a deep conviction to something!

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Monday, March 22, 2010

Your Self Talk

Your past and present experiences are alive and well in the form of your "self-talk."  "Self-talk" happens in your head and  involves messages that you  continue to play over and over again.

For people with healthy self-esteem the self-talk is positive and reassuring. For those with low self-esteem, the self-talk is harsh and critical.

Do you beat yourself up for something that you've done? Do you struggle with something that you know you should do, but talk yourself out of. That's your self-talk!

Self-talk says things like "You can't do that. You're gonna fail. You're a loser!" Change THOSE tapes to something positive!

We all have self-talk tapes. TALK BACK TO THEM -- NOW! Let them know that YOU are in control!

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Monday, March 15, 2010

Change Comes Slowly

We live in a fast-paced world. We want things 3 years ago, yesterday. If we don't (or can't) get a "quick fix" to a situation, we get frustrated. Why does it take so long to "get it?"
  • New things take time. We have to relearn something forty or fifty times to really get it. We need  repeated exposure.
  • There is much to unlearn. Many people go for help and want it immediately. They want a quick solution to something that is deeply rooted. Since many problems don't develop overnight, it's unrealistic to expect them to go away quickly. Change requires a "remove and replace" mindset.
  • Growth requires change. There is no change without loss, and there is no loss without some pain.
  • In order to get to a new behavior, you have to let go of the old. Take your time to develop new behaviors!
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Monday, March 8, 2010

Promises

Do any of these sound familiar:
  • promising a delivery date and not following through
  • volunteering for a job and then realizing it's taken way too long 
  • agreeing to a deal that looked great, but wasn't
  • accepting an invitation, then wanting to get out
There's a simple solution to these dilemmas!

A philosophy to live by: choose your commitments carefully, think things through before you say anything, under-promise and over-deliver. With this, you'll build a solid reputation as a person who says what they mean and means what they say.

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Monday, March 1, 2010

Trust and Respect

The most important elements to communication are trust and respect. When you trust someone enough to be honest with them, you grow to respect them.

Trust is tied to communication. Every time you communicate honestly,  trust increases. When the trust is high, communication is easy because it is effortless, spontaneous and effective. When the trust is low, communication is exhausting and time consuming.

Where there is trust, there is respect.

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(Excerpt from Communication At Work -- Putting It Together) Robert Roza

Monday, February 22, 2010

It's invisible!

Many believe that communication is what comes out of your mouth. And, to an extent, they're right; but it's the behavior underneath, that is important. Communication is tricky because it's invisible. If you're not paying attention you can't see or feel the power of it unless it's written. When it's written, you can go back to it and process the intention. However, when it's spoken, it's over in a flash. When you're not paying attention, important information is shared and missed; therefore, it's important to get a handle on what's important, and why.

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(Excerpt from Communication (is easy) from the Inside-Out. 7 Steps to Your Personal Power) Robert Roza

Monday, February 15, 2010

It's ALWAYS Correct!

Your intuition is always one hundred percent correct, but it takes time to hear it correctly. You may not be capable of hearing answers to your questions when you ask them, and the answers may not always come in the ways that you expect, but they will always come. If you're willing to risk acting on what you believe to be true, and risk making mistakes, you will learn fast to what works and what doesn't work. And you can expect your intuition will lead you in directions that are new and different for you.

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(Excerpt from Communication (is easy) from the Inside-Out. 7 Steps to Your Personal Power)  Robert Roza

Monday, February 8, 2010

Fear and Communication

Fear is a daily part of living and is tied to communication. Doubt goes hand in hand with fear. When you doubt, you become afraid. When you fear something, it creates doubt about how you'll deal with situations. Doubt uses limitations and shortcomings to influence life choices. When you doubt an achievement, you "shout out" to the world what is (and isn't) possible. When you let go of doubt, you come to an understanding that leads to creative and inspired solutions far beyond what you thought was possible.

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(Excerpt from Communication (is easy) from the Inside-Out. 7 Steps to Your Personal Power) Robert Roza

Friday, February 5, 2010

Ask Your Gut!

An important step to learning to hear and follow your intuition is to practice "checking in" with it. At least two times a day, take a moment to relax and listen to your gut feelings. Ask your gut for help or guidance and practice listening for answers which may come in many forms -- words, images, feelings or being led to a book, friend, teacher who will tell you what you need to know. (Impulses, hunches, sudden/subtle insights are another way to decribe this.)

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Wednesday, February 3, 2010

It's Language From Your Brain!

In order to really "know" your language, you have to pay attention. Awareness is important. When you pay attention to what you say, you can choose to think differently. The best way to do this is to listen to your self talk. Self talk is what it says -- talking to yourself; the language in your brain. How is your self-talk today?

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Monday, February 1, 2010

Mind Your Language!

Becoming mindful of your language takes practice and time. When you take care of your words and take the time to be purposeful and intentional, you'll become more  effective in all areas of your life. Your relationships will improve, you'll experience more joy and satisfaction and you'll be heads above the rest.

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Friday, January 29, 2010

Make Communication Meaningful!

When you communicate with others, make each encounter purposeful and meaningful. If it's not beneficial (or the best way to spend your time), do something about it. Think of your mind as a gas tank. It needs the best fuel to keep it going.

Long winded people are not respectful of your time. They don't do it intentionally. They may just be lonely or unaware that the conversation ended a "while back."

There are some people who will steal your time but if they do, you've given them permission by not cutting them off at the start.

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Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Boss Support!

Being a leader requires a focus.

Be a team player. There is no "I" in team. People need to know you're in their corner; watching their back. Support and motivation run hand in hand. Staff need to know they have "boss support." When they do, they feel more motivated to do their jobs well. They also trust that you'll help them when they need it.

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Monday, January 25, 2010

Lift Them Up!

Become a people-builder-upper! It's a "gift" that we all need (and can benefit from)! 

Here are three ways to do it: 1) challenge, 2) encourage, and 3) be honest. Challenge your family, friends and colleagues to live beyond themselves and to discover their strengths and abilities. We all have gifts and we all need "buddies" to encourage their development. Lastly, we need to take a risk and be honest with others.

If you see someone who would benefit from your honest insight, take a step forward and talk to them.

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Friday, January 22, 2010

It's About Development!

When you don't exercise your muscles, they get weak. In the same way, if you don't utilize the gifts or skills God has given you, you will lose them.


Whatever gifts (skills) you have been given can be enlarged, but it takes practice! For instance, no one gets the gift of teaching in its entirety. You have to practice to be a better teacher. In time, you can grow to be a master teacher.

Stretch yourself and learn all you can!

Develop yourself!

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Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Assess Yourself!

What do you want to be when you grow up? Many times, we're asked this as children. "I want to be a doctor." "I want to be a nurse." "I want to be President." There are some adults who still ask "What do I want to be when I grow up?"


If you're still floundering with what you want to "be" maybe it's time to assess and re-evaluate.

Begin by looking at your gifts or abilities. Look at what you do "well." Make a list. Ask your friends and colleagues for their insight. Tell them you need the "truth" and not lip service. Your spiritual gifts (or things that come naturally to you) are usually confirmed by others.

If you think you're gifted as an actor or a singer but on one else agrees, guess what? Are you a leader? See who YOU inspire!

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Monday, January 18, 2010

With Passion!


How do you know when you enjoy your work?

When you do what you love, you do it because you ENJOY it! You don't need a reward, a medal or an award for your efforts.

How do you know when you don't enjoy something?

When you are easily discouraged.

When you do what you're wired  to do, you do it with love and passion. If you don't care about a task, it is unlikely that you will excel at it. The highest achievers are those who do things because of their passion.

Don't waste your life in a job (or hobby) that doesn't express your heart! Figure out what you love to do and then do it . . WITH A PASSION!!

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Friday, January 15, 2010

Just Watch!

Many service providers fail to show an understanding or sensitivity to a customer's culture. In addition, service providers respond poorly to a customer that speaks English as a second language. In this case, communication problems result.


The next time you're at the grocery store (or at the mall); watch as store employees interact with customers from different cultures. In some cases, you'll see excellent service, but the majority of service will be poor because the employee lacks the sensitivity to the customer's culture. 

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Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Lead By Doing!

Listening is an "art." Paint a better picture by giving the "other half" a chance to speak. Don't dominate "your half" of the give and take, by hogging up the conversation. Ask open ended questions to get more from your listener. "Good listening" means you put aside what you are doing, to show the speaker that you will listen. You reserve your opinions, thoughts and conclusions until you've heard what they are trying to say. You have an attitude of openness and respect for their opinions. You may not agree but you are willing to hear them. This demonstrates your respect for them.


Make your mark by leading your business with good communication skills!

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Monday, January 11, 2010

It Has Staying Power!

We all have  had moments where bad situations weren't handled well. In the process, we kill ourselves with the inner voice that says "something is wrong with me." We forget our goodness and believe the badness because in many situations, the "critical tape" was given to us a long time ago. It might have been given in anger or frustration. It might have been given by someone in authority -- parent, teacher, boss. It might have been given when we were younger. What needs to happen is that we recognize its "staying power" and choose to change it. After all, being negative to yourself isn't something that helps you, does it?

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Friday, January 8, 2010

Inner Dialogue


Negative self-talk is your inner dialogue. Some researchers have estimated that there are 25,000 hours of these tapes in a human's head. And we all have them. Usually, these voices tell us that we are unlovable, worthless, or bad. The negative self-talk may be experienced as a thought. The majority of the time, it is partially (or totally) unconscious. Most of us are unaware of the habitual activity of the voice in our heads. We become aware of it in certain stressful situations when shame is activated. And this internalized shame causes you to focus on a particular group of automatic thoughts, to the exclusion of anything that is positive. This preoccupation creates a kind of tunnel vision in which you think only one kind of thought, and notice only one aspect of your environment.

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Wednesday, January 6, 2010

A Generational Tape


Victims are people who run their lives according to rules of others. (Think of those messages that you got as you grew up; and see the generational connection in how it got through your parents, grandparents and  great-grandparents.) They do things they really would not do. They are done with resentment because they've been manipulated through guilt and shame. To be victimized means to be governed by forces outside of yourself. But, you can rarely be victimized unless you allow it to happen. Many times, these "tapes" are generational. You just don't see how deep they go.

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