Monday, April 16, 2018

A Good Idea: Theme Songs and Confidence

Want to be EMPOWERED? Get yourself a theme song and play it when you need a
boost! Back in the 70’s, Helen Reddy wrote the song I Am Woman (Hear Me Roar). It became an anthem for women, and won a Grammy Award! We all need encouragement and a song can do it! What lyrics inspire you? The next time you are stuck and need to move out of a rut, play your theme song and see what happens!

IT’S JUST A GOOD IDEA
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Sunday, April 8, 2018

How Zumba Saved Me!

I’ve  ALWAYS believed that testimonies are tools for personal growth and transformation. They “speak” to what’s possible and how to triumph over adversity. Here’s mine about how I did it!

Three years ago, I was in a bad space. My house went into foreclosure. I was evicted and I lost a teaching job that I loved. Prior to this experience, I attended zumba 3-4 times a week. Being in class brought me so many positives. That all went away when I just “gave up.”

The depression was overwhelming. I couldn’t concentrate. It was hard for me to get out of bed and walk to the bathroom. I dropped from 180 to 155 pounds. I averaged 2-3 hours of sleep per night. (That was with sleep medication.) My friends dropped out of sight. Many of them  couldn’t be bothered. I felt like my life was over. I thought about suicide. That seemed like a viable solution since nothing I did worked.

One day, I turned on the television. Joyce Meyer, the Christian evangelist said, I need to stop what I’m saying and preach to my television viewers. If you’re thinking about suicide, STOP! That is the enemy. God has a better plan for you.  That moment  wasn’t an accident. It was God telling me to move.

At this point, I was away from my Zumba routine. A friend of mine suggested I return. It helped her overcome fertility issues. In her words, Bob, you’ve got to come back and enjoy the music and fun. I told her I’d think about it since coming back to my local gym was 40 miles, round trip. I said to God, Your plan is better than mine. You know my circumstances and my limitations. I started one day a week. It took me about six weeks to get back into the groove and enjoy dance.

This is my tenth year doing zumba. When I was in the midst of foreclosure, eviction and job loss. I lost myself and  ALL its benefits (i.e. endorphin rush, lower blood pressure, positive camaraderie with others). Now, I’m better. Life is picking up. My weight is back, my blood pressure is lower and I no longer have suicidal thoughts.

For me, zumba is not just a class. It IS a lifestyle that incorporates wellness and restoration of spirit.

Focus: Exercise, Spirit, Joy


Question for You: 1) What exercises can you do to replenish your spirit? 2) What physical challenges are you experiencing that warrant an exercise plan? 3) What is stopping you from an exercise regime?

Monday, April 2, 2018

Family Roles: Problem Child or Addict (End)

The Problem Child or Addict

This family member has an unconscious need to be the center of attention. They may have
felt that they didn’t get the kind of attention they desired when they were young. On the outside, they can be entertaining and intuitive. On the inside, they are addictive and manipulative. In order to BREAK FREE from this role, you will need:
1)   Awareness of situations that “trigger” the need for attention.
2)   A game plan that helps break addictive behaviors
3)   Support in the area of counseling


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Monday, March 26, 2018

Family Roles: Helper or Enabler

The Helper or The Enabler

The helper role develops to help out the parents. The helper develops at a young age. They
fix family problems. They make take on more of a parental role than the actual parents. On the outside, they are helpful and caring. On the inside, they are controlling and enabling. In order to BREAK FREE from this role, you will need:
1)    Change the family pattern of “helping” others.
2)    Tell family members that they need to be responsible for their behavior.


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Monday, March 19, 2018

Family Roles: Mascot or Slacker

Mascot or The Slacker

The comedian plays the role of the family jester. They see the problems in the family and they provide levity. They entertain to distract the family from the emotional intensity. They find that if they can be funny, that they get attention from other family members. On the outside, they are funny and positive. On the inside, they are terrified, needy and left-out. In order to BREAK FREE from this role, you will need:
1)    To be taken seriously,
2)    To hear that your opinions count,

3)    Garner support of your feelings.

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Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Family Roles: Lost Child or The Ghost

Known as the quiet one, or the dreamer. He is rarely in trouble. On the outside he looks
quiet and creative. On the inside, they are disconnected and emotionally dead. They can be depressed and suicidal. In order to BREAK FREE from this role, you will need:
1)    Positive attention,
2)    Encouragement to take chances,
3)    Stay connected to other people.


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Monday, March 5, 2018

Family Roles: Scapegoat or Black Sheep

They tend to be the scapegoat for family problems. They are sometimes held responsible for other family members issues. They can be emotionally vulnerable and depressed. They pull attention to themselves. On the outside, they are rebellious and defiant. On the inside, they are hurt and afraid to trust others. In order to BREAK FREE from this role, you will need:
1)    Permission to be successful,
2)    Supportive confirmation,
3)    Structure and consistency.


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