Do you make New Years Resolutions? I did when I was younger,
but not anymore. Making a resolution for a whole year seemed overwhelming. I’ve
learned that if you take things one step at a time, and one day at a time, that
ideas are resolved better and faster.
Where do you need to start? What are your instincts screaming
right now? Do yourself a favor and do it!
Make a point of resolving things right away. Because, the
quicker you get it together, the quicker the results!
In order to become a better listener, there needs to be a
commitment. Listening requires patience, persistence and a plan for
improvement. Casual involvement and genuine commitment are not the same thing.
What is your commitment to your listening improvement?
Are you communicating your best self? Can you answer that
question quickly or do you need to give it some thought? Ifyou have to take some time to think about it,
you probably aren’t making your mark. It takes just five seconds to make an
Many people have trouble communicating (i.e. whether it’s
asking for a raise or saying you’re “sorry” and really meaning it. Your
communication skills are always in flux. Many people don’t really pay
attention. There’s the rub. Communication is invisible and happens in an
eye-blink. Words can cut to the quick. It’s important to pay attention to how
you’re coming across and here are 5 strategies to change your communication
mentor. A mentor is someone who inspires you and is a role model.
The best role models convey dignity and respect for others. Through their
dignity and respect comes effective communication. John F. Kennedy and Oprah
Winfrey are people who conveyed intelligence, compassion and a great sense of
friend for feedback. The best feedback comes from someone you trust;
who can tell the truth (and do it in a way that doesn’t put you on the
defense). Ask a friend for honest feedback. How does your communication come
across? Does it need work? IN what ways (i.e. vocabulary building, listening
better, etc.)? Opening up a conversation for this feedback can get you to
understand what is happening under the surface. Without constructive criticism,
you don’t know what skills to keep, and which ones to throw out?
out your strengths and weaknesses. (This comes after your
friend’s feedback.) There are moments when your communication shines, and moments when it falls flat. A quick way to see yourself is to
make two columns – one for strengths, the other for weaknesses. Do a thorough
check on what you do well (i.e. listening to others, conveying empathy), and
what you don’t (i.e. interrupting others, overuse of slang, etc.). Now,
challenge yourself to work on making your weaknesses a communication strength.
Some traits might take a while to overcome. The objective is to face what isn’t
working and making a conscious effort
to change it. Focus on the words conscious
and effort. Many people don’t. If
you don’t pay attention, you can’t change the impression you’re making.
theme song! Yes, you read that right. Find a song that
empowers you! We all have artists that we like and admire. Many times, songs
“speak: to us. It can be Irene Cara’s Flashdance
–What A Feeling to Steve Winwood’s While
You See a Chance (Take It). Find a song that makes you feel good about
yourself and gives you confidence. Now play it when you’re faced with a
situation that warrants you to face your fear(s), and challenges you to step
out of your comfort zone.
your fear(s). Fear is a constant for any new situation (i.e.
asking for a rasiee, saying “I’m sorry” to someone you’ve hurt.) You can’t get
away from it. A good way to face fear is to break it into small parts. Analyze
the “whole” situation and determine your strategy. Break things down into small
parts. What can you handle first and foremost? Now, do it! Afterwards, assess
your performance and move on. Bit by bit, you’ll get better.
It takes just five seconds to make an impression. These five
steps will point you in the direction for communicating “your best self.”
Do you get anxious when you meet someone new? Does going to a
party make you nervous?
Here’s a great way to change that. Ask a question. When you ask a question, it conveys that you want
to get to know a person. Where did you
get that tie? How did you make that recipe? Questions get people to REVEAL
who they are. They are GREAT ice-breakers (and a great way to flirt)!
Trust equals commitment and if there is not trust, the
relationship won’t evolve. Trust is a slow process that happens over time. When
there’s a betrayal of trust, it threatens the relationship. Research shows that
it takes up to five times to gain a new
customer, then to sell an existing one.